If you’ve ever seen the movie or read the book “The Lord of the Rings” you know the story of Frodo and Sam. They are on a great adventure to destroy the ring, but carrying the ring is no easy task. Two friends who care deeply about each other begin to fight and question each other’s loyalty. What they didn’t realize is that there was something else going on, there was an unseen enemy in their midst. The ring was causing them to turn against each other instead of fighting for each other. And this is a great picture of what happens in our marriages. The enemy is not your spouse, there is another unseen enemy, who wants to take out your marraige. The sooner you realize that fact, the better.
John 10:10 says “the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy,” and this includes our marriages. So what do we do? We have to fight…together, with God. Team up with God and your spouse.
In Ecclesiastes 4:12 the Bible says “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” So what does that look like? And how do we fight an unseen enemy?
- You need to have real relationship with God. To have a relationship with someone means you have to communicate with them. God speaks to us in His Word. Are you reading it? We speak to God through prayer and He answers us. Are you praying?
- Pray together and for each other. Here are some great resources to help you.
- Show your spouse love by using THEIR Love Language. Most of us try to show our spouses love through the way we see love. Your spouse doesn’t feel love in the same way as you. To learn more about the 5 Love Languages and discover what yours are, visit www.5lovelanguages.com.
- Attend church together. It’s important to find a church that you both like and where you are being taught the Word. Your church should help you to grow in your relationship with God, not just be an inspirational message.
- Have like-minded friends. This one takes some work. We’ve had lots of friends, but they weren’t encouraging us in our marriage. They also didn’t have the same values we had. We had to find our friends. We attend and lead small groups at our church and invite others over to our home to get to know them. You have to create a group of friends, they don’t just show up at your door.
How many marriages have you seen fall apart under pressure? You and your spouse are two cords. They are strong to a point, but will eventually break under pressure. When we truly bring God in and allow Him to intertwine in our marriage, and lives, the cord becomes stronger. It is not easily broken.
We want to encourage you to partner with God in #TeamMarriage. He wants to lead you into a marriage you’ve only dreamed about!
Sidenote: We realize that everyone is not on the same page with their spouse. Your spouse might not be following Christ as you are, or they might not be a believer at all. Be encouraged, “For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband…” (1 Corinthians 7:14). Your walk with God and how you treat your spouse has a powerful effect within your marriage. We want to encourage you to still do your part in teaming up with God.